Raising Happy Kids and Teens

How to Raise Happy Kids and Teens

As parents we all wish for our children to be happy. What wouldn't we do to see a smile on their innocent faces? However, it is not always easy to keep our children happy. Sometimes, their wishes and desires may not be in line with ours. This is especially true with regard to teenagers. How can we keep our children happy?

happy kidLet your children know that they are valued, loved and appreciated. This will make them feel confident and secure in your love. It does not matter whether you are married, divorced or living in a blended family. Put in the time and effort to make your child feel special. Say something good, do something together so that your child feels cherished and special.

Spend quality time with your children. Even stay at home parents need to set aside some time each day to spend with their child. Don't let work or chores or other demands creep in on the time that you have reserved for your child. Ten to thirty minutes of your day spent with your child will give you a bond cherished for a lifetime, so don't hesitate. Take this time to talk to your child about their day, activities and so on and do things together. For instance, you can play basket ball or go through your child's drawings.

Keep your child healthy. Kids tend to be irritated and disturbed if they are ill, so make sure you give them healthy homemade food, give them their vitamins and vaccinations, visit their dentist regularly, and go for a check up of your child's overall health and well being and so on.

While enforcing rules and disciplining your child, don't threaten them. Your attempts to intimidate your child will only serve to detach them from you. Small children may get scared whereas teens tend to simply ignore threats they are sure will not be implemented.

Don't pressurize your child to excel. It is true that all parents want their children to excel academically and in sports but never force your expectations on your child. Understand your child's abilities and limitations and set realistic goals. For instance, some children may excel in math but not in social sciences. On the other hand, some may be average academically but excellent in sports. See where your child's talents lie and help him hone his skills. Encourage your child to put in their best efforts in all that they do and appreciate them for it. If you feel that your child is not doing his best, a discussion is in order.

Respect your child's privacy. This will show them that you trust them and they will think twice about betraying your trust. Giving your child the space he needs does not mean that you completely distance yourself from your child's doings. Keep tabs on their activities at school, their social life and even online. But don't breach privacy by going through their closets and reading their diaries. If you have any doubts about your child's activities, ask them outright. On the other hand, if they have any issues that they are unable to handle alone, rest assured, they will approach you even if it is only after they have exhausted all other alternatives.

Build your kids confidence by showing your appreciation of their efforts. Don't criticize them harshly or make fun of them. Motivate them to do new things and take on challenges. If your need to correct your child, explain to them that their actions are the source of your anger and disappointment, not the child himself. Also, don't compare your child with his friends or siblings. This will only damage his self esteem.

Take an interest in the things that your child likes. For example, if your child is a baseball fan, take him for a game or go to watch him play. The mere fact that you are there in the audience, rooting for him will give a boost to his confidence. If your child enjoys trying out new recipes, don't hesitate to let them try them out and make sure that you join her so that you can also learn something new. If your child wishes to learn pottery or painting, sign up for a kidsclass together.

Be an active presence in your child's life. You need to care and provide for your child. Help them with their emotions, issues and academics too. Make it a point to attend PTA meetings, games and other events which require your presence. Remember, the role of a parent can be fulfilled only by a parent. No stand-in will do.

These simple guidelines should help you raise happy kids and teens. Happy memories of growing up years makes the parent-child bond even more special and cherished.

Source: Health Guidance for Better Health